I went out yesterday and I wondered why people don’t approach me as much as before.

Till about 2 years ago I was the person everyone talks to, strangers always went out of their way to say hi. Now aside from business and some intimate settings I have been reigning in my friendliness, and I have done so unconsciously. If I’m honest I think I also look a little mean/stuck up.

I still get a good deal of men who approach me daily, but its usually the very confident very unafraid of rejection guys, who probably can approach even the most menacing looking girl in the most hostile environment if they wanted, just because.The ones who will scream and follow and bust out a few lines of poetry, amusing, but not  authentic interactions in my opinion.

Maybe its the cut-throat industry I used to work in, which I may be going back to soon, or maybe I just ‘forgot’ on the way. Anyhow, I tried something, tonight, I will smile like I had a 100K to spend for fun, and a delicious secret. I had this little naughty smile, and maintained it for the whole time I was out, it was not work, once I started I reverted to how I was a few years ago, happier.

A guy came up to me asked me how I was, said I was good, thanks what about you? He said: yeah you look like nothing could ever bother you then he busted out some Arabic just to practice. Its always hard for people to try to talk in a language they are just learning in front of a stranger, so I think my strategy worked just fine, and I had fun. It is rude to approach a girl in public without an introduction where I live as well, but I guess the ‘smile’ worked haha.

I know sometimes it is advised to be aloof, but if I am in a safe environment, that I am comfortable and strong in, why not look approachable? It doesn’t feel too good to be disconnected.

Just some extra info: research shows that you can bring on a happy feeling by just smiling. Sounds good. If you wanna know more google: Smiling Makes You Happy.

Enjoy your smile, and if you need to work on these pearly whites, get it done, or get over it and smile anyways. It is worth it.